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Confidence Is Coming...
Imagine for a moment that you are anticipating guest for the upcoming Holiday. While you are excited about their upcoming arrival, you also have reservations and are gripped with overwhelm as you look around you house thinking about all the things that have to be done. You are looking at the stack of clutter in the corner, the overgrown pile of clothes that need to be placed where they belong, not to speak for getting the groceries and preparing the menu for your guests' arrival.
Well, when it comes to confidence the same is true. Often times while we have invited confidence into our lives to step in and help us take charge as we pursue the life we were created to live; we have the mental equivalent of clutter in our mind. We are reminded of the broken promises we’ve made to ourselves in the past and the old habits that have become the centerpiece of the rooms in which we live.
Well, in order to properly welcome confidence into our lives, we have to prepare for its arrival. It’s not rational to think when it arrives all the things will miraculously take care of themselves. Instead, we have to prepare and get our mental house in order. It’s time to clean up—and that’s exactly what we are going to do, as we prepare to welcome Confidence into our lives.
Here are Five Simple Steps to Getting our Mental House In Order.
Step 1: Throw Out the Trash (Negative Self-Talk)
Think about all those self-doubts like crumpled papers lying around. "I’m not good enough," "I always mess up," "What if they don’t like me?" These thoughts are mental trash, and it’s time to toss them out. Take a moment and think about one thing you often tell yourself that doesn’t serve you. Now crumple it up (yes, even in your mind) and toss it in the bin. No one needs that kind of negativity lying around! 🗑️
Step 2: Rearrange the Furniture (Shift Your Perspective)
My husband is the King of The Rearrange. I can’t tell you the number of times, I will come home and be totally surprised to find furniture or fixing suddenly rearranged. In most instances, as I give him that “here we go again look”, surprisingly the new arrangement serves us well bring a fresh perspective and new appreciation for the space
Likewise, sometimes our beliefs are like that couch we’ve been sitting on forever, even though we don’t particularly like it there anymore. In your mind maybe you believe, "I can’t speak up" or "I’m not a leader." Well, I challenge you to move that belief—shift it around! Try saying, "I’m learning to speak up," or "I’m developing leadership skills." Rearranging this “mental furniture” changes your view and opens up space for something new. A simple change in perspective, and your whole room feels different.
Step 3: Dust Off the Mantle of Your Mind (Acknowledge Small Wins)
Often times, people place family photos, memorable keepsake items or other things representing fond memories on the mantle of their fireplace. But overtime, dust can accumulate a top the mantle creating a layer of dust, if we aren’t paying close attention.
Well, likewise, there are found memories, big wins and small achievements that we often overlook or down right forget about. When was the last time you appreciated even the smallest achievement? Those little victories—whether it’s speaking up in a meeting or setting a boundary—are like trophies collecting dust on your mental shelf. Dust them off! Recognize and celebrate these wins. They are the reminders of your growth, your resilience, and the fact that you’re showing up. Clean off that shelf and let them shine! ✨
Step 4: Declutter the Closet (Let Go of Old Beliefs)
We all have that one closet (or two) stuffed with things we don’t need but can’t seem to let go of. Sometimes it’s old beliefs like "I’m too shy," or "I don’t belong here." Open that closet, take a deep breath, and start removing what doesn’t align with the confident version of yourself. Old beliefs serve no purpose in your new, cleaned-up, confidence-filled house!
Step 5: Add Some Fresh Decor (Positive Self-Talk)
Now it’s time to add some personal touches! Hang up the positive reminders that you want to see daily. "I am capable," "I deserve to be heard," "I bring value." These are like artwork on the walls of your mind. The more you look at them, the more they become part of your daily landscape. Put them somewhere visible—write them down, make sticky notes, keep them front and center.
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Final Thought 💭
Once you’ve cleaned up your mindset, you’ll feel lighter, more focused, and ready to welcome in more confidence. Remember, a tidy mind makes room for big dreams and bold moves. Confidence is Coming your way. The question is, will you be ready to let it not just come visit, but to set up residence in your life.
I realize this message wasn’t for everyone, but it was for SOMEONE. If that someone, is you and you were blessed by it, I invite you to type “Got some cleaning to do” in the chat. I also invite you to like, share or subscribe so I can bring other helpful tips and tools to help you build the confidence to live the life you were created to live.
Again, I’m Dr. Nicole Steele, The Confidence Coach. Until next time, Be Bold, Be Brilliant, Be Blessed.
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