Having worked with thousands of parents over the past two decades and listening to their frustrations as it pertains to their daughters, I am reminded of a story my Mother often tells of a day when as she says, “her dear sweet pre-teen daughter went off to school and when the bus arrived in the afternoon off stepped an alien who lived in her house for 4-5 years”. Although my memories of my adolescent years, fade in and out from time to time, I must admit there was a time in my past when by all appearances it seemed I had lost my mind.
An impressionable, hormonal, pre-teen girl concerned about the many things that often pre-occupy the hearts and mind of girls. Unsure about the future and how I fit in, I like many other young girls was insecure in more ways than even I could imagine.
Yet with all the uncertainties of teenage life, one thing I could always depend on was the unconditional love and support of my mother. Now in no way does this mean that home was without drama, frustrations, and a clash of personalities. But what I am thankful of most of all, is that through it all, my Mother never gave up hope in the beautiful daughter that she knew she gave birth to.
Likewise, I encourage many of the parents that I come in contact with through the work that we do in Diamond In The Rough, not to give up on their daughters either. For some parents, it may seem overwhelming at times as tempers fly high, and hormones rage out of control, but what I know first hand is that the love, prayers and support of family can overcome all.
Parents can take many steps to create an environment where communications flow freely and their homes become a place of refuge from a crazy world. A few suggestions include:
Nicole Steele is President of GEM Makers, LLC and Executive Director of Diamond In The Rough a faith-based leadership program that provides group mentoring, life skills training and career coaching to girls ages 4-18. For more information on Diamond In The Rough visit www.ditr.org or call (678) 376-9676. Copyright 2014 Nicole Steele and GEM Makers LLC. Used with permission.