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Use What You've Got

Thu, 04 Dec 2025 12:38:12 GMT

Start Where You Are. Use What You Have. Do What You Can.

Some of the most powerful reminders in life are also the simplest. And this one has been echoing in my spirit lately:

Start where you are.

Use what you have.

Do what you can.

In a world that often tells us we need more—more time, more resources, more perfection, more certainty—it’s easy to feel unprepared or inadequate before we even begin. But the truth is, progress rarely starts from a place of “perfect.” It starts from a place of honesty.

Where are you today?

Not where you wish you were.

Not where you think you should be.

Not where people expect you to be.

Right here. Right now. This moment is enough to begin.

Once we embrace where we are, something beautiful happens: we realize that we already have tools, strengths, and experiences that can carry us forward. They may seem small or ordinary, but they are valuable. They are yours. And they are enough.

Maybe you have:

A small window of time
A single idea
A supportive friend
A spark of determination
A lesson learned from a tough season

Start with that.

And then—simply do what you can. Not everything. Not the impossible. Not what overwhelms you. Just the next right step. Just the piece within your reach today.

When we honor our beginnings, leverage what’s in our hands, and take small steps consistently, momentum builds. Confidence grows. Doors open. And before long, we look back and realize that what once felt like “not enough” was more than enough to lift us into a new chapter.

So today, give yourself permission to begin imperfectly. To show up with what you have. To do what you can—and trust that it’s enough.

Your journey doesn’t require perfection. It requires courage.

Start where you are. Use what you have. Do what you can. And watch how far it takes you.

Consistency Creates Confidence

Thu, 20 Nov 2025 15:18:52 GMT

Consistency Creates Confidence

Finding a Regimen That Transforms Your Life

One of the greatest lessons I’ve learned over the past year is this: confidence isn’t something you stumble into—it’s something you build. And the secret ingredient that holds it all together is consistency.

We often think of confidence as a personality trait, but in reality, it’s a byproduct of our daily habits. It comes from keeping promises to yourself, honoring your priorities, and shaping a lifestyle that supports who you want to become. When you create a regimen that works for your life—your schedule, your needs, your goals—you set yourself up for steady, sustainable growth.

Recently, my team member and dear friend Toni Lee Jones gifted me a shirt that perfectly captures the rhythm I’ve embraced this past year. It reads: Wake up. Worship. Workout.

Such simple words. Yet they summarize a lifestyle shift that has transformed me physically, emotionally, and spiritually.

Starting my mornings with intention—centering my spirit, moving my body, and aligning my mind—has strengthened my confidence in ways I never expected. It’s helped me show up clearer, calmer, stronger, and more grounded throughout the day.

But here’s the beautiful part: your regimen doesn’t have to look like mine. It just has to serve you.

Maybe your rhythm is:
Wake up, stretch & journal
Pray, hydrate & walk
Meditate, create & connect
Plan, breathe & read

Whatever helps you feel anchored, energized, and aligned—that’s the routine worth building.

Because consistency isn’t about perfection; it’s about progress. It’s about showing up—day after day—for yourself. And with every consistent step, your confidence grows stronger.

So let me ask you:

What’s your regimen?

What rhythm, routine, or ritual helps you step into your best self?

I’d love to hear it. Share your go-to routine or the one you aspire to build. Let’s inspire one another to stay consistent, stay committed, and keep becoming the confident women we were created to be.

Consistency creates confidence. Start where you are, and grow from there.

Don't Give Up

Wed, 29 Oct 2025 17:52:04 GMT

Don't Give Up Now

Don’t Give Up: Better Days Are Still Ahead

Let’s be honest — the world feels heavy right now. Between what’s happening in our nation and across the globe, it can sometimes feel like we’re walking through more darkness than light. Many people are tired. Some are hurting. And others are simply trying to hold it together one day at a time.

If that’s you — take heart. You’re not alone.

In times like these, it’s easy to believe that positivity means pretending everything is okay or plastering on a smile when your heart is aching. But that’s not what true positivity is.

Being positive doesn’t mean you have to be happy all the time or ignore reality. It means choosing hope. It means trusting that even when things look uncertain, better days are coming.

You’ve faced challenges before — and you made it through. The same strength that carried you then still lives inside you now. That same resilience, that same spark, that same faith is still working on your behalf.

So pause. Take a breath. Remind yourself that your current season is not your final destination. There is purpose even in the pain, lessons even in the waiting, and growth even in the struggle.

You are not forgotten. You are not failing. You are being refined.

Hold on, friend — joy is on the horizon. Keep believing. Keep building. Keep shining. The world still needs your light.

Check your Circle

Wed, 01 Oct 2025 13:23:26 GMT

Check Your Circle

One of the fastest ways to crush your confidence is surrounding yourself with confidence crushers. The truth is—some relationships have expiration dates. And that’s okay.

This is YOUR season to thrive. Don’t be afraid to evaluate who’s really meant to make the trip with you. Not everyone can go where you’re going, and that’s a sign of growth, not loss.

You deserve peace, joy, and confidence on the journey ahead.

Take a moment today to check your circle—because your future depends on it.

Do It Now

Tue, 02 Sep 2025 13:16:38 GMT

Stop Waiting for the Perfect Time

We’ve all been there—waiting for the stars to align, the bank account to grow, the kids to get older, or the fear to fade before we step out and pursue that dream tugging at our hearts. But here’s the truth: the “perfect” time rarely comes. If you’re always waiting for conditions to be ideal, you may end up waiting forever.

One of my favorite reminders says it best: “Sometimes later becomes never. Do it now.”

Think about it—how many goals have you set aside with the intention of circling back “later”? Later, when you have more energy. Later, when life isn’t so busy. Later, when you feel ready. But the danger is that later can quietly slip into never.

Your vision, your purpose, and your goals are too important to be left on hold. The dream inside of you was planted for a reason, and it deserves your action—not someday, but today. Fear, doubt, or procrastination may whisper excuses, but none of them are stronger than your “why.”

So, where do you start? Small steps lead to big progress:

�� Take the step — no matter how imperfect.

�� Write the plan — clarity creates momentum.

�� Make the call — the one you’ve been putting off.

�� Start the thing — action beats hesitation every time.

Each move you make today is an investment in your future self—the one who will thank you for the courage, the discipline, and the decision you made to begin. So don’t wait another day. Don’t let another week pass you by. The time is not later, it’s now.

�� What’s ONE step you can take today toward your dream or goal? Share it below—I’d love to cheer you on!

#DoItNow

#DreamBig

#TakeAction

#NoBetterTime

You Heard Correctly...

Tue, 19 Aug 2025 12:48:40 GMT

You Heard Correctly...

Stop searching for happiness in the same people or places where you lost it.

Sis, you didn’t hear wrong. You didn’t make the wrong decision when you chose yourself. That was courage.

Now it’s time to lean fully into yourself—taking one intentional step each day toward your healing. And as you do, trust that God is mending the broken pieces, as He prepares you to rise stronger, bolder, and more confident than ever before.

You were created to shine, to stand tall, and to walk in self-assurance. Don’t doubt it for a second.

You’ve got this, sis.

#Confidence

#HealingJourney

#ChooseYou

#FaithAndFearlessness

#YouGotThisSis

MindShift Monday

Mon, 11 Aug 2025 13:54:28 GMT

Mindset Monday

"We can’t solve our problems with the same thinking that created them." – Albert Einstein

Confidence isn’t just about how you show up—it’s also about how you think.

If your current thoughts got you here, but you want to go further, it’s time for a mental upgrade.

This week, take an honest look at:

Your mindset – Are you thinking in ways that empower you or keep you doubting yourself?
Your habits – Are they building your confidence or chipping away at it?
Your circle – Do the people around you believe in you, or make you question your worth?
Your patterns – Are you clinging to old ways of thinking that no longer serve the confident version of you?

True confidence grows when we give ourselves permission to release what holds us back—whether it’s a limiting belief, an unhealthy habit, or a relationship that drains us.

This week’s challenge: Identify one thought, habit, or connection you will let go of to create space for a stronger, bolder, more confident you.

Be The Reason...

Mon, 04 Aug 2025 13:56:17 GMT

Be The Reason...

Be the Reason Someone Smiles… and Stands Taller

Confidence isn’t just built in the mirror—it’s built in the moments we feel seen, valued, and encouraged.

Today, YOU have the power to help someone believe in themselves a little more.

Speak life.
Share a genuine smile.
Give a compliment that uplifts, not just flatters.
Remind someone of their worth.

And guess what? The more you uplift others, the more your own confidence grows. Because confident people create confident spaces.

Today, I challenge you to be bold enough to be kind. Be brave enough to build someone else up. Be the reason someone believes in themselves today.

Don't Be Discourage By Closed Doors

nsteele@ditr.org (Nicole Steele) — Tue, 22 Jul 2025 11:59:08 GMT

Don't Be Discouraged By Closed Doors

Don’t Be Discouraged by Closed Doors

Just because a door didn’t open doesn’t mean your journey is over — it simply means it wasn’t your door. If the door doesn’t open, it’s not your door.

Trust that what God has for you is already yours. Keep showing up. Keep preparing. Keep believing. Your consistency and faith are not in vain. God’s timing is perfect, and when the door meant for you opens, no one and nothing can shut it.

Stay faithful. Stay focused. Stay ready.

Your moment is coming — right on time.

Girl, Get Rid of The Guilt

nsteele@ditr.org (Nicole Steele) — Thu, 17 Jul 2025 13:43:38 GMT

Girl, Get Rid of The Guilt

THINK ABOUT IT THURSDAY...

Hey sis, you don’t need to shrink yourself to be accepted. You don’t owe anyone access to a version of you that compromises your peace.

I've come to learn that while people pleasing may feel polite, it can quietly steal your power, your time, and your joy. Saying “yes” to everything often means saying “no” to yourself, and that's not cute.

I want you to remember, you’re allowed to do what’s best for YOU. That doesn’t make you selfish—it makes you wise. Boundaries are not walls; they are bridges to your well-being.

Today, give yourself permission to:

- Say no without over-explaining

- Choose rest without guilt

- Protect your peace without apology

Drop a comment below if you're done being everything for everyone. It's time to normalize self-respect over self-sacrifice.

Settling Season is OVER

nsteele@ditr.org (Nicole Steele) — Mon, 14 Jul 2025 14:19:46 GMT

Settling Season Is Over

Stop Settling. Start Striving.

Sis, you weren’t created to play small. You weren’t designed to dim your light. You weren’t placed here to settle for crumbs when you were born to feast. It’s time to raise your standards, stretch your vision, and step into more — more purpose, more peace, more power.

Stop asking, “Is this enough?” and start declaring, “There’s more for me, and I’m going after it all!” No more shrinking. No more second-guessing. Only growth, greatness, and hitting your goals. This is your season to STRIVE, not settle.

Stay Focused Girl

nsteele@ditr.org (Nicole Steele) — Fri, 11 Jul 2025 13:09:23 GMT

Stay Focused Girl!

STAY FOCUSED GIRL!

When you fix your eyes on God and your goals, something powerful happens…

You grow, you glow, and you inspire others to do the same.

Distractions will come, but don’t let them detour your destiny. Stay planted in purpose, grounded in prayer, and focused on the bigger picture. Your consistency is your glow up.

Confidence Check

nsteele@ditr.org (Nicole Steele) — Thu, 22 May 2025 13:14:56 GMT

Confidence Check

CONFIDENCE CHECK

"Confidence doesn’t mean you’re perfect—it means you’re courageous enough to keep showing up."

Sis, perfection is not the goal. Consistency, courage, and showing up even when it’s hard—that’s where your power lies. Every time you rise, speak up, try again, or take one more step… you’re building the kind of confidence that can’t be shaken.

* Show up messy.

* Show up uncertain.

* Just keep showing up.

The more you do, the more unstoppable you become.

Tag a woman who keeps showing up—no matter what.

Monday Motivation

nsteele@ditr.org (Nicole Steele) — Mon, 19 May 2025 13:16:09 GMT

Show Up For You

MOTIVATIONAL MONDAY

"You owe it to yourself to show up for your life, and you owe it to your Creator to show up for the life He gave you." – Jennifer Allwood

Let that sink in.

Yes, we’re living in challenging times. The weight is real. The battles are personal. But even still, you were created for more than just surviving. You were created to live, to lead, to shine.

�� The time is not someday.

�� The time is now.

�� Show up, even if it’s with shaky hands and a hopeful heart.

There’s purpose in your presence, power in your press, and destiny on the other side of your “yes.”

The world is waiting. So show up… for YOU.

Your Belief Is Her Foundation

nsteele@ditr.org (Nicole Steele) — Tue, 06 May 2025 12:29:15 GMT

Your Belief Is Her Foundation

Hey Mom...your belief is your daughter's foundation.

Behind every confident daughter is a mother who believed first, for both of them. ��

Never underestimate the gift and the responsibility of believing in your daughter's dreams, her voice, her brilliance…and in your own. Your belief speaks louder than words and reaches deeper than lectures. It shapes how she sees herself and what she dares to become.

So today, take a breath and remind yourself: you are her first mirror, her first cheerleader, and her first teacher of faith.

Keep going, keep believing. For her. For you. For the legacy you're building together.

#BuildingBrilliantBonds

#MothersRaisingDaughters

#BelieveInHer

#ConfidenceStartsAtHome

#RaisingBrilliantGirls

#MamaLegacy

Who Will Miss Out?

nsteele@ditr.org (Nicole Steele) — Thu, 01 May 2025 16:19:02 GMT

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Did you miss yesterday’s Confident In The Calling session? You weren’t the only one, but let this be your sign not to miss the moment God is calling you into.

Now more than ever, it’s time to seek out and walk boldly in your calling. Too many are still feeling frazzled by life, frustrated by delays, or fearful of failure, but your obedience can’t wait on perfect conditions.

YOUR CALLING IS BIGGER THAN YOU.

Someone’s breakthrough, healing, or transformation is directly connected to your yes.

Let that sink in: your obedience is someone else's blessing.

Stop waiting for the “right time.” Start with what you have. God has already placed everything you need in your hands and your heart.

You don’t have to do it alone. The resources, guidance, and support are available to help you confidently answer the call.

Visit www.ConfidentInTheCalling.com

#ConfidentInYourCalling

#AnswerTheCall

#PurposeInMotion

#FaithOverFear

Your "Yes" is BIGGER than you.

nsteele@ditr.org (Nicole Steele) — Wed, 30 Apr 2025 12:40:09 GMT

Your "Yes" is BIGGER than you

When you answer your calling, it’s never just about you. Your obedience unlocks healing, hope, and breakthrough for others.

Every step you take sends a ripple that reaches places you may never see. It's time to step Confidently Into your Calling —not just for you, but for the lives waiting on the other side of your "Yes".

A Monday Motivation for Moms

nsteele@ditr.org (Nicole Steele) — Mon, 21 Apr 2025 13:00:36 GMT

A Monday Motivation for Mom

A MONDAY MOTIVATION FOR MOMS

The beauty of spring reminds us that growth takes time, care, and love. Like the blooming flowers, the bond between a mother and daughter flourishes with patience and intention.

This season, lean into the little moments—those shared laughs, heart-to-hearts, and everyday wins. They're the sunshine and rain that help your relationship grow deeper roots and brighter blooms. ��

Let this spring be a fresh start, a reminder that you and your daughter are growing together—stronger, wiser, and more connected.

A Message for Mom

nsteele@ditr.org (Nicole Steele) — Mon, 14 Apr 2025 15:09:47 GMT

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This is your weekly reminder that you are doing an incredible job raising a world-changer.

As you pour love, lessons, and leadership into your daughter—don’t forget to refill your own cup too.

This week, choose progress over perfection, connection over chaos, and grace over guilt.

You are shaping a legacy with every hug, every hard conversation, and every moment you choose to show up—even when it’s tough.

Here’s to a week of wins—big and small.

Keep showing up. Keep leading with love. Your daughter is watching… and learning how to shine from your light.

You’ve got this, mama! Place a "❤️" in the chat if you receive this word of encouragement today.

#BuildingBrilliantBonds

#MomsRaisingQueens

#ConfidentMoms

#GirlMomGoals

#DITR

#ConfidentHeartsConnectedHomes

Raising a Confident Daughter: 7 Empowering Habits for Moms

nsteele@ditr.org (Nicole Steele) — Sun, 06 Apr 2025 03:20:20 GMT

Raising a Confident Daughter: 7 Empowering Habits for Moms

Self-confidence is one of the greatest gifts you can give your daughter. It’s not just about helping her feel good about herself—it’s about shaping her into a resilient, emotionally healthy young woman who can stand tall in a world full of pressures and comparisons.

From playground politics to social media filters, your daughter will face challenges that can chip away at her self-worth. That’s why the foundation you build at home is so essential. The love, support, and encouragement you offer her daily will be the voice she hears in her head when things get tough.

Here are seven powerful ways to nurture your daughter’s self-confidence, one intentional moment at a time:

1. Let Her Do It Her Way

Yes, it might be tempting to swoop in and "fix" her messy ponytail or the uneven layers of her handmade card—but let her take the lead when possible. Whether she’s making her bed, packing her lunch, or styling her outfit for the day, give her room to own her decisions. When you allow your daughter to take charge of small tasks, you're telling her, “I believe in you.” That message sticks.

2. Celebrate the Small Wins

Your voice is powerful. Use it to build her up. Whether she stands up for a friend, improves her math test score, or tries something new—even if she’s scared—acknowledge it. Praise that focuses on effort rather than perfection helps your daughter understand that it’s okay to try, fail, and try again. (i.e. “I saw how hard you worked on that science project. I’m so proud of your effort!”)

3. Be Genuinely Curious About Her World

Ask questions about what she’s reading, the TikTok dances she’s learning, or how practice went. When you show interest, you show her that her world matters to you. Your presence and attention reinforce her sense of value and teach her she’s worth being known—not just managed.

4. Help Her Name and Navigate Big Feelings

Instead of brushing off her emotions with “You’re fine” or “Don’t be so sensitive,” help her identify what she’s feeling—and remind her that all emotions are valid. When she knows her feelings are respected, she’ll trust her intuition and feel more confident standing up for herself—even when her peers are pulling her in another direction. (i.e. “Sounds like you felt left out when the girls didn’t invite you to sit with them. That would make anyone feel sad.”)

5. Choose Your Battles (Gracefully)

Yes, she left her socks in the living room again. But does it really need a lecture? Some habits fade more quickly when ignored, especially if you’re pouring your energy into praising the behaviors you do want to see. Try giving her “positive attention minutes” daily—just 10–15 minutes where you focus entirely on her. This often leads to fewer attention-seeking behaviors.

Let your feedback be more about lifting her up than tearing her down.

6. Trade Criticism for Coaching

Criticism can shrink her spirit. Instead, guide her gently. Mistakes are powerful learning opportunities. Give her space to reflect and recalibrate. This teaches her she doesn’t have to be perfect to be deeply loved.

7. Connect With Eye Contact and a Kind Voice

When your daughter talks, pause and look her in the eye. Even a quick glance during dinner prep can remind her she’s seen and heard. These small but consistent cues—eye contact, a gentle tone, a smile—send one big message: You matter.

Your daughter is watching, learning, and absorbing everything you say and do. You don’t have to be a perfect mom—you just have to be a present one. Keep showing up, keep cheering her on, and trust that your love is making a lifelong impact.

You've got this, Mama.

Reflections:

What messages about confidence and self-worth did I receive growing up—and how might they be influencing my parenting today?
How often do I affirm my daughter for who she is, not just for what she does?
Am I modeling the kind of self-talk I want my daughter to have about herself?
What’s one area where I can step back and let her take the lead—even if it’s not “perfect”?
How can I create more intentional one-on-one connection time with her this week?

Don'tGive Up

Wed, 22 Jan 2025 15:05:18 GMT

Don't Give Up

�� Dear Moms, Your Love Matters ��

To all the incredible Mothers (Grandmothers, Aunts, and others raising girls) out there, we see you. ❤️ The way you pour your love, time, and energy into your girls, even when it feels like they might not notice or appreciate it—trust us, it matters.

Your hugs, your kind words, your unwavering support—they plant seeds that will grow in their hearts. Sometimes, those seeds take time to bloom, but the love you sow will never be wasted. ��

There may be days when they push you away, roll their eyes, or seem distant. Don’t give up. Your persistence in showing love and affection teaches them resilience, trust, and the beauty of unconditional love. ��

You are their safe space, their compass, and their cheerleader. Keep going! You are doing an amazing job, even when it doesn’t feel like it.

Tag a mom who needs to hear this today. Let’s lift each other up, and remember to mark your calendar for my FREE Building Brilliant Bonds Mini-Masterclass on Monday, January 27th at 7:30 p.m. Visit https://bit.ly/45XW48B for details and to reserve your seat today.

#BuildingBrilliantBonds

#MotherhoodJourney

#UnconditionalLove

#KeepGoingMom

#EncourageMoms

#YouGotThis

#DITR

Make your relationship with your daughter top priority

Wed, 22 Jan 2025 14:54:32 GMT

Making Your Relationship With Your Daughter #1

�� This New Year, make your relationship with your daughter a top priority. ��

As mothers, we often juggle a million things—work, family, life—but the bond you share with your daughter is one that will shape her future. Take time to listen, connect, and nurture that unique relationship. Show her love, patience, and support, so she grows up feeling valued and understood.

This year, let’s invest in our daughters’ hearts, minds, and futures. A strong mother-daughter relationship is one of the greatest gifts you can give her.

Join The FREE Building Brilliant Bonds Mini Masterclass hosted by Dr. Nicole Steele, The Confidence Coach and Girl Guru in Monday, January 27th.

Visit www.TheRealNicoleSteele.com to register today

�� Make time. Make memories. Make her feel loved. ��

Monday Motivation

nsteele@ditr.org (Nicole Steele) — Mon, 18 Nov 2024 15:08:42 GMT

Say Less...Do More

Every small step you take towards your goals is a victory. Confidence doesn't come from waiting for the perfect moment—it comes from taking action, learning, and growing along the way.

Don’t let fear or self-doubt hold you back. Start today, even if it's just one small thing, and watch your confidence soar as you build momentum. Your dreams are within reach, and you are more than capable of making them happen. I believe in you Sis!!!

The time to act is NOW! ��

#WomenEmpowerment

#ConfidenceBuilding

#TakeAction

Confidence Is Coming

nsteele@ditr.org (Nicole Steele) — Tue, 12 Nov 2024 08:17:30 GMT

Confidence Is Coming...

Imagine for a moment that you are anticipating guest for the upcoming Holiday. While you are excited about their upcoming arrival, you also have reservations and are gripped with overwhelm as you look around you house thinking about all the things that have to be done. You are looking at the stack of clutter in the corner, the overgrown pile of clothes that need to be placed where they belong, not to speak for getting the groceries and preparing the menu for your guests' arrival.

Well, when it comes to confidence the same is true. Often times while we have invited confidence into our lives to step in and help us take charge as we pursue the life we were created to live; we have the mental equivalent of clutter in our mind. We are reminded of the broken promises we’ve made to ourselves in the past and the old habits that have become the centerpiece of the rooms in which we live.

Well, in order to properly welcome confidence into our lives, we have to prepare for its arrival. It’s not rational to think when it arrives all the things will miraculously take care of themselves. Instead, we have to prepare and get our mental house in order. It’s time to clean up—and that’s exactly what we are going to do, as we prepare to welcome Confidence into our lives.

Here are Five Simple Steps to Getting our Mental House In Order.

Step 1: Throw Out the Trash (Negative Self-Talk)

Think about all those self-doubts like crumpled papers lying around. "I’m not good enough," "I always mess up," "What if they don’t like me?" These thoughts are mental trash, and it’s time to toss them out. Take a moment and think about one thing you often tell yourself that doesn’t serve you. Now crumple it up (yes, even in your mind) and toss it in the bin. No one needs that kind of negativity lying around! ��️

Step 2: Rearrange the Furniture (Shift Your Perspective)

My husband is the King of The Rearrange. I can’t tell you the number of times, I will come home and be totally surprised to find furniture or fixing suddenly rearranged. In most instances, as I give him that “here we go again look”, surprisingly the new arrangement serves us well bring a fresh perspective and new appreciation for the space

Likewise, sometimes our beliefs are like that couch we’ve been sitting on forever, even though we don’t particularly like it there anymore. In your mind maybe you believe, "I can’t speak up" or "I’m not a leader." Well, I challenge you to move that belief—shift it around! Try saying, "I’m learning to speak up," or "I’m developing leadership skills." Rearranging this “mental furniture” changes your view and opens up space for something new. A simple change in perspective, and your whole room feels different.

Step 3: Dust Off the Mantle of Your Mind (Acknowledge Small Wins)

Often times, people place family photos, memorable keepsake items or other things representing fond memories on the mantle of their fireplace. But overtime, dust can accumulate a top the mantle creating a layer of dust, if we aren’t paying close attention.

Well, likewise, there are found memories, big wins and small achievements that we often overlook or down right forget about. When was the last time you appreciated even the smallest achievement? Those little victories—whether it’s speaking up in a meeting or setting a boundary—are like trophies collecting dust on your mental shelf. Dust them off! Recognize and celebrate these wins. They are the reminders of your growth, your resilience, and the fact that you’re showing up. Clean off that shelf and let them shine! ✨

Step 4: Declutter the Closet (Let Go of Old Beliefs)

We all have that one closet (or two) stuffed with things we don’t need but can’t seem to let go of. Sometimes it’s old beliefs like "I’m too shy," or "I don’t belong here." Open that closet, take a deep breath, and start removing what doesn’t align with the confident version of yourself. Old beliefs serve no purpose in your new, cleaned-up, confidence-filled house!

Step 5: Add Some Fresh Decor (Positive Self-Talk)

Now it’s time to add some personal touches! Hang up the positive reminders that you want to see daily. "I am capable," "I deserve to be heard," "I bring value." These are like artwork on the walls of your mind. The more you look at them, the more they become part of your daily landscape. Put them somewhere visible—write them down, make sticky notes, keep them front and center.

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Final Thought ��

Once you’ve cleaned up your mindset, you’ll feel lighter, more focused, and ready to welcome in more confidence. Remember, a tidy mind makes room for big dreams and bold moves. Confidence is Coming your way. The question is, will you be ready to let it not just come visit, but to set up residence in your life.

I realize this message wasn’t for everyone, but it was for SOMEONE. If that someone, is you and you were blessed by it, I invite you to type “Got some cleaning to do” in the chat. I also invite you to like, share or subscribe so I can bring other helpful tips and tools to help you build the confidence to live the life you were created to live.

Again, I’m Dr. Nicole Steele, The Confidence Coach. Until next time, Be Bold, Be Brilliant, Be Blessed.

Fear Not

Thu, 31 Oct 2024 19:41:43 GMT

Fear Not - Building Confidence In The Face of Fear

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Hey, it’s your girl, Dr. Nicole Steele, The Confidence Coach.

As I sit here this fall afternoon and begin my day, I can’t help but think about the amount of money, time, and energy people have spent creating scenes and imagery to create fear and terror. Now, listen, I am in no way passing judgement on those who enjoy an occasional scary movie or a good, haunted house. Boo, do you. I to o once liked that type of thing but the older I get it’s just not working for me. I have found my peace to be more precious.

But that’s not what I jumped on to chat about today, instead, I was thinking about what things are frightening to me at this point in my life or to those I serve in my line of work as a Confidence Coach. As I pondered that question, there were three things that instantly came to mind, that I would like to share with you today.

#1 – It is scary to imagine living your whole life, yet allowing fear or feelings of inadequacy to prevent you from reaching your full potential.

It makes me think about the countless people who stay stuck although they know there is so much more to life, but never fully grasping it because fear and doubt has cause them to be immobilized. There is nothing more powerful than stepping into your purpose and living up to your full potential.

How do I know, you ask, because for many years I lived my life stuck? But I also know the power of pressing past feelings of inadequacy and trading fear for faith. I know that freedom and joy that comes as you experience the unimaginable as you evolve from who you once were, into the person you were destined and designed to become.

I now get a chance to help others tap into that very thing as a visionary, leader, and coach, in and through, Diamond In The Rough, Gem Makers, and Beyond Brilliant

#2 - It is frightening to imagine having to face the daily challenges of life on my own.

I’m not sure about you, but as they say…life be lifing. It doesn’t matter who you are, or at what level you live, the trials and challenges of life escape no one. As I think about my personal journey, I can’t imagine having to have all the answers myself or having to rely on me to see me through. This is where the blessings of my faith, family, and friends play a major role.

For anyone out there who is carrying the weight of the world on their shoulders, I beg you to allow the heavy burdens of life to be lifted. How do you do that you ask, first of all, you have to open your mouth, and I recommend starting with praying to God who is the ultimate burden lifter. Invite God into your situation. Seek His face and ask Him for guidance as you navigate life. He and He alone is all-knowing, all-powerful, and able to meet you at your point of need. Invite Him in.

Next, find your tribe. For some, it may be your biological family, but for others, it may be a family that you have been blessed to form through life’s experiences. Either way, find your people. People who will encourage you, provide wise counsel, and intercede on your behalf. We were not meant to do life alone, so find your tribe or tap into a community that can care for you and fully support you during life’s challenges.

#3 – Lastly, it can be terrifying as we look with uncertainty and great anticipation in the days ahead as a heated national election approaches.

It is easy to allow fear and anxiety to creep in and take over, especially if you are watching the news, and commercials and listening to the pundits talk about all the possibilities. If any of you are feeling a little overwhelmed or experiencing anxiety, I encourage you to take a moment to breathe. That’s right... take a moment to actually breathe.

Despite what it looks like and what it feels like, we are going to be alright. If each one of us does our part to exercise our right to vote and mix it with prayer for our nation, our leaders and the world, we can turn our attention toward God and place all our other concerns at His feet and trust the process.

So as you go throughout the rest of your day, I encourage you above all to trade in any fear you are feeling with faith.

In the meantime, if this has blessed you in any way, please like, share or subscribe. Until next time, I’m Dr. Nicole Steele, The Confidence Coach, encouraging you to be Bold, be Brilliant, Be Blessed.

Hold On And Don't Let Go

nsteele@ditr.org (Nicole Steele) — Tue, 29 Oct 2024 12:44:39 GMT

Hold on and don't let go

TUESDAY TIP…

Hold on, and don’t let go.

You may have been abandoned, bamboozled, or disappointed by others in life who made promises they didn't keep, but let me assure you my sister, God is faithful. He can be trusted. He is not a man that He would lie. If He made you some promises and told you a thing or two, HOLD ON TO IT. No matter the storms that may come, don't let go. He is faithful Sis. I'm not telling you what I think...I'm telling you what I know.

Make it a terrific Tuesday and hold on in faith.

THE VALUE OF TIME

nsteele@ditr.org (Nicole Steele) — Sun, 01 Sep 2024 22:23:43 GMT

The Value of Time

TIME IS THE MOST VALUABLE THING YOU HAVE. PROTECT IT!

As you begin your week, be intentional about how you spend your time. We all get the same 24 hours each day. Be sure to invest yours in a way that will help you get to your goals and live the life you were created to live.

A few quick tips to help you manage your time

- Create Brilliant Blocks in your schedule to complete the tasks that tend to steal your time (i.e. send emails, check texts, make calls, etc.)

- Stack your tasks (i.e. listen to an audible book while working out, read your morning devotional with your morning coffee, etc.)

- Allow some downtime between tasks to clear your head and refresh yourself.

- Set time limits for each of your tasks.

- Consider your weekly plan on a Sunday

Make it a marvelous Monday!

#TimeManagement

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#TheRealNicoleSteele

WHEN CONFIDENCE IS CULTIVATED

nsteele@ditr.org (Nicole Steele) — Wed, 06 Dec 2023 23:48:19 GMT

WHEN CONFIDENCE IS CULTIVATED

GRAB YOUR CROWN AND SIT DOWN FOR ANOTHER EPISODE...

Tune in tonight as Dr. Nicole Steele welcomes award-winning journalist, author, orator, and licensed massage practitioner, Dominique Carson as special guest on The She's Crowned With Confidence podcast. As one who has had an opportunity to interview some of the most prominent entertainers and leaders of our time, there are a few powerful things she has learned along her personal and professional journey that speak to how confidence can be cultivated.

CLICK HERE FOR THE FULL PODCAST

A PICTURE IS WORTH A THOUSAND WORDS

nsteele@ditr.org (Nicole Steele) — Fri, 01 Dec 2023 00:15:50 GMT

A PICTURE IS WORTH A THOUSAND WORDS

As they say, a picture is worth a thousand words.

This image came through my feed today, and it took my breath away. Having been on the front line for over three decades working with ladies, leaders, and little girls, I have learned the importance of providing safe and nurturing spaces for girls, and in many instances encouraging women to do the work to heal the little girl within.

Many things happen to us throughout life. Some things are brought upon by ourselves, but more times than not we can be victims of life's circumstances and the decisions and actions of others. Either way, it's important to take the time and take advantage of the necessary resources needed to heal. As I often say, if we don't, "Broken babies, will become broken ladies".

If you can relate to this picture, please know that God is more than able to heal the broken places in your heart. You may not have had the resources available at one point in your life, but He is more than able to meet you today at your point of need. Simply call out to Him and invite Him in, to provide the healing, comfort, and restoration that you deserve.

While I don't know who to credit for this image, THANKS TO THE ARTIST and the one who posted it, along with the reminder, "what happened to you wasn't your fault, but healing is your responsibility".

#ThinkAboutItThursday

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LOVIN' THE SKIN YOU'RE IN

nsteele@ditr.org (Nicole Steele) — Wed, 18 Oct 2023 22:11:34 GMT

LOVIN' THE SKIN YOU'RE IN

Throughout life, you’ll discover personal attributes that frustrate, challenge, or maybe even disgust you. Perhaps your eyes aren’t the color you’d like, or your nose is a little wider than most. Maybe you’ve always wanted to be tall or maybe your foot size makes it difficult to find shoes in your size. Perhaps your wide hips have been something you’ve always wrestled with or the thin frame that everyone else admires, you would trade any day. What can you do to accept your body just the way it is?

If you have found yourself struggling with loving the skin you are in, then consider these action tips designed to help you learn to LOVE the skin you are in:

Remind yourself that it’s the only body you have. It might sound silly but, unless you have lots of money and time to pay for and undergo cosmetic surgeries, this is the body you’ve been given. Accepting it will save you a lot of grief.

Survey your body “systems.” How well does your body work for you? Examine the intricacies of your very own body and its functionality. You’ll likely be pleased at all the things your body does for you.

Take pride in your positive attributes. If your hair is short and kinky, rock what you’ve got. Has having to wear glasses always been your challenge, well order a new set of frames that compliment your face and express your personality. Trouble with your skin? Explore a new facial regiment but love it nonetheless. These are attributes that make you uniquely you.

. Notice when your body works well for you. Maybe you almost missed the bus this morning but you ran like a racehorse and jumped on the bus just before it pulled away. You must admit, it’s a beautiful thing to be able to run fast enough to catch the bus. Recognize how well your body can respond to your needs.

Develop a realistic plan for change. In the event you wish to build muscles in your arms, it can be done. But you must consult with exercise coaches and similar experts to achieve the results you want. Pay attention to those attributes that you have the power to change.

Commit to your plan to change what’s possible and set aside time to achieve your goals. Once you realize what you have the power to change and you have written a realistic plan, vow to follow your plan. Allow time in an average day to work your plan. You’re forming a new habit and it must be repeated several times weekly to achieve the results you’re after.

7.Deal in healthy ways with things you can’t change. Rather than get disappointed or angry about one of your body’s attributes, recognize that certain people are born with certain characteristics that likely are unable to be changed. Embracing your physical appearance just the way you are is the best route to living a life of self-confidence and serenity.

Take care of your body. The best way to show your love for your body is to take good care of it. Notice your appearance. Use lotions and moisturizers to maintain supple, smooth skin. Keep your hair healthy. Take part in regular and consistent exercise. Provide good nourishment to your body. No matter what size, weight, or physical attributes you have, when you take care of your body, you’re showing the love you have for yourself.

Accepting your body image is so important to your everyday existence. When you can say, “I’m okay just the way I am,” you’ll lead a calmer, more settled, and happier life.

YOU ARE BECOMING

nsteele@ditr.org (Nicole Steele) — Tue, 17 Oct 2023 23:31:48 GMT

YOU ARE BECOMING...

Give yourself a little grace today, and recognize as you take one step forward towards your dreams each day, you are becoming the woman you are meant to be.

#BeyondBrilliant

#TheConfidneceCoach

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WHAT IS YOUR RELATIONSHIP WITH YOU?

nsteele@ditr.org (Nicole Steele) — Wed, 23 Aug 2023 23:39:33 GMT

WHAT IS YOUR RELATIONSHIP WTH YOU?

Often we spend countless hours focusing and even fretting over our relationships with other people, asking ourselves countless questions about other people (i.e. do they like me, will they call me, what are they thinking, how can I impress them...)

While it is important to regularly examine our relationships and put in the work to ensure they are healthy and strong...even more important is our relationship with ourselves. How we feel about ourselves matters. How we talk to and about ourselves is important. Believe it or not, the way we feel about ourselves, directly or indirectly impacts every other relationship we find ourselves in.

Let me remind you...everywhere you go, there you are. While you can decide when and how to engage others, the reality is you can never escape you. When you rise, there you are. When you steal away for quiet time, there you are. When you find yourself in a myriad of emotions from day to day, there you are. The reality is you can never escape you.

So, in realizing that, it's more important than ever to regularly examine your relationship with you. Start by asking yourself a few important questions:

Do you like yourself?
Are you pleased with the person you are becoming?
What personal attributes do you admire about yourself? What areas could use a little improvement?
Are the words you speak about yourself uplifting, affirming and encouraging, or are your words critical and unkind towards yourself.
If you were outside of yourself, would you choose to be around you?

The way you answer these questions can be telling. However, taking the time to begin with a small activity like this can be the beginning of the rest of your life, being the best of your life. If the answers you came up with aren't favorable to you, then start today, working on you. Invest the time, energy and attention on becoming a better you. Whether it is reading books, investing in a counselor or coach, getting an accountability partner, journaling or just taking a deep dive into yourself including rediscovering your unique gifts, talents and interests.

As you continue to do your work, it will directly and indirectly begin to impact how you show up in all the other areas of your life. Working on yourself is never time wasted.